The following is a public service message for married couples seeking mutual understanding.
The title for this post is what I actually said to my wife (pinky swear) awhile back. Once I got this statement out in the open with my spouse (and explained it), many of our chore and/or conversational conflicts dissipated (for the most part - I'm a good husband, I'm not a saint). After decades of living with women, from childhood to marriage, it finally dawned on me (I know... taking that amount time doesn't really showcase any real analytical prowess), the way we process information is fundamentally different. Okay... I can hear a chorus of female voices say, "Duh", all the way out here. But, please hear me out. There really is some real science behind all of this.
In computing terms:
se•ri•al: involving the transfer of data as a single
sequence of bits
par•al•lel: involving the simultaneous performance of
operations. The opposite of serial (see above).
The following article has been updated and moved to my current blog.
It goes without saying that the stuff I don't know far outnumbers those I do. I knew that the Drew Cary Show was set in Ohio - Cleveland to be exact (home of the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame, btw), Columbus is its state capital (see, who said junior high school civics class was a waste), famous son John Glenn was the oldest man to venture into outer space, Canton is where the Pro Football Hall of Fame resides, and that it's known as the Buckeye State (college football 101). But, what I didn't know about the 17th state of the union was staggering:
50% of the U.S. population lives within 500 miles of said state capital
its state flag is pennant shaped - the only state flag of that design in the whole darn country
7 presidents were born there: Grant, Hayes, Garfield, Harrison, McKinley, Taft, and Harding
the first state to enact laws for working women
and the number one jar dropper for me, and what I most associate with my 9-year old daughter, is that this is its state rock song:
Incredible, huh? I know, I know. But, the real reason I bring all of this up is that within its borders are some of the most genuine, best read, and the very definition for good friend people. Why do I say this?
I've recently won the Ohio Lot O Play? I wish... but, no
there's a really cute girl at work and she's from OH - Huh... never mind
None of that. However, by luck or good fortune, two of my favorite bloggers on the planet fit that definition. Jen Forbus and Corey Wilde. Gracious and insightful in their posts, generous and keen in their comments. Always. Recently, both managed to catch this old one quite off guard - around the time I clicked off another year (somewhere out is a speed limit with my age on it). And they did this all without knowing that I was born on Friday the 13th.
First, Corey sent me a copy of his favorite (but short-lived) series on DVD, American Gothic, because he knew I never saw it and was very interested in it. Plus, a copy of author Michael Koryta's newest, The Silent Hour (Lincoln Perry series). Not just that, but an autographed one! Then, this weekend, I received something special from Jen - the award winning Envy the Night by the same author, and with this inscription:
To Michael - a friend of Jen's is a friend of mine! Best, Michael Koryta
This, along with a wonderful card, from someone I met via the inter-tubes (and who I actually got to meet in person this spring at the L.A. Times Festival of Books). See, this is why I had to learn more about the people of Ohio. It is the reason I recently uploaded a clip of a favorite scene of mine that best expresses what I think of friends:
And before I go all mushy, I have to share this additional tidbits. You know you're from Ohio if...
You don't think of Florida first when someone mentions Miami.
You've heard of 3.2% beer.
Schools close for the state basketball tournament. Deer season, too.
You know all the 4 seasons: Winter, Still Winter, Almost Winter, and Construction.
You can spell words like Cuyahoga, Olentangy, Bellefontaine, and Tuscarawas *(Wapakoneta?) and you know which letter is doubled in "Cincinnati."
You know what a buckeye really is, and have a recipe for candy ones.
My thanks to Ohio, and both of my friends. If everything works out for all, I hope dearly to see both of these friends at Bouchercon 2011 in St. Louis (along with Robert Crais). Say goodnight, Gracie. Goodnight.
People get exposed to music in all form and manner. From TV, cable programs, entertainment systems (your own or what's blaring from the vehicle bordering next to you while you wait at the traffic signal), to friends/co-workers. Even picking up on new and un-experienced tunes from those who write some very keen blog posts on the subject (I include bloggers Moondancer, Jen, Corey, and Dennis, here), or leave generous and insightful comments in response to such (like internet friend Poncho). My library and I have benefited from these, of late. But since I have a penchant for watching movies, too [wife: "No... really?"], I have to confess that that medium has been another avenue for identifying new music and acquiring tracks that end up on to my iPod. It goes without saying, the endless play of those tunes has given me an untold amount of enjoyment, and has driven the consternation of my immediate family, on occasion. On the other hand, I see that last part as my job as the jumbled spouse, and generationally-challenged parent. That's just par for the course.
Notwithstanding, the mere fact that a track is in a film (even if it's a good movie or song), doesn't guarantee that I'll acquire it for that sake. But there are times when the music (whether it's a popular tune or not) will match so eloquently to the scene, the action, or the mood of that cinema moment. On these rare occasions, it melds both movie and song into my memory, and that is when I move on it. If I hear that song or melody, I'm right back there in my head. Quite the contrary, a track like the Theme from a Summer Place, while it is on my iPod, didn't get there using the criteria I just described. That old instrumental is memorable to me because, as a child, I was brought up with it, and it's not because of that particular film. Just the same, a song like Huey Lewis and the News' The Power of Love does make it on that basis. And you're probably sick of me alluding to it so many times, but Crowded House's Recurring Dream is stuck in my head (and on my iPod) because of the movie Tequila Sunrise. As well, you might as well throw a filmmaker like Michael Mann into this mix. Especially, for his soundtrack selections (see the use of the infectious salsa tune Arranca by Manzanita in 2006's Miami Vice). The instrumental music he chooses for his closing shots, in particular, are exemplary for their culminating tenor (see Thief, Heat, or Collateral). He really knows how to end a movie (on a high note, so to speak).
Additionally, I could have a section of the library dedicated to Quentin Tarantino films all by themselves. His clever use of old, current, and eccentric music in all of his movie soundtracks is almost freakishly dead on. I include the noir lyricalGoodnight Moon (from Kill Bill Vol. 2), to The Delfonics and Bobby Womack cuts of Jackie Brown, to making me wince when I think of (Reservoir Dogs) Stealers Wheel's Stuck in the Middle With You. And then there are the longshot contributions of such underrated fare like The Long Kiss Goodnight (which is one of the great movie titles, ever, and sounds like it should be a classic crime fiction novel by Raymond Chandler) for bringing in the likes of Santana's version of The Zombie's classic, She's Not There. Through the years, there have been so many of these that have eaten up storage capacity on my computer and iPod (and in case you're worried, I do make it a point to run back-up programs).
And, if I was going to mention and/or list those soundtrack songs that illicit this peculiar procurement response (what else would be the point of yammering on so, if not to make a post of it), I'd have to start with the examples below. So the question I put to you, Have any movie/music combinations done the same to you and your personal digital player?
Even though Sergio Leone's The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly didn't come out till late 1967, we had the single the next year (well, my brother did - but I listened to it constantly after viewing this movie). Clint Eastwood's third spaghetti western continued his rise in world popular movie status, and continued composer Ennio Morricone's association with the famed Italian director. Years later, Morricone would do other distinct and wonderful scores in other film favorites of mine, including The Thing (1982), The Mission, and The Untouchables. When I finally downloaded this to an iPod, it was one of the first of these movie tracks (though, it was Hugo Montenegro's version of the instrumental).
I didn't see Breakfast at Tiffany's when it came out (I was only 7 years old in 1961), but years later, it is likely when I fell for Audrey Hepburn. Perhaps that very moment, when I recognized it, was when Audrey sang the Johnny Mercer, Henry Mancini tune this in the movie. The irony here is that I started out with both the Andy Williams vocal and the Mancini instrumental versions in the iPod library, and it was only recently that I picked up Audrey's simple and heartfelt version from the movie itself.
I enjoyed listening to both Harry Belafonte's Jump the Line and Day-O songs, beforehand. But Tim Burton's highly imaginative use of them in Beetlejuice sealed the deal. I can't listen to either without thinking about the movie - and neither can my daughter who absolutely hates how the sequence (above) culminates.
Paul Oakenfold's charged dance tune, Ready Steady Go, gets here because it has been use twice in two electrifying action sequences. In The Bourne Identity's car chase sequence in 2002 (by director Doug Liman), and above in Michael Mann's exciting, almost music video-like sequence from 2004's Collateral. It's strange in that it works so well in both films since their sequences are so different in mood and staging. But, it does.
Truthfully, I'd have Gimme Shelter on my iPod, anyway. But, since it's been used so effectively by Martin Scorsese in some killer sequences for three of his crime films (Goodfellas, Casino, The Departed), I've got to mention it here. Even a Simpson's episode used it. Besides, any excuse to listen to Merry Clayton belt out that second, echoey vocal track is always fine by me.
And if I'm going to list that Stones' tune, you know I've got to include the Ferris Bueller's Day Off clip of the lead character lip-syncing the great Twist and Shout by the boys from Liverpool. The clip speaks for itself (and this song must be in the air, or ether, because this YouTube video clip was just added a couple of weeks ago).
Composer Danny Elfman's soundtrack of The Kingdom is mostly guitar instrumentals. But, this affecting track (titled Finale), which comes after the great but draining action sequence of the film, is such a melodic, haunting tune (that more than matches the emotional context and dialogue in the scene it appears in). If you've seen it, you'll know what I'm talking about.
I don't have a lot of opera classics on my digital player, but most of those that I do have came from the movies. In this case, Vide Cor Meum (written by Patrick Cassidy) is a prime example. It really is an evocative piece. So much so, that director Ridley Scott used it (quite effectively) in two of his movies: first in 2001's Hannibal, and later in Kingdom of Heaven (2005).
Okay, I admit it. I can be such a Christmas time softy, at times. But, Josh Groban's version of Believe (from 2004's The Polar Express) sure made it easier to stomach the motion sickness inducing 3-D effects employed on this film.
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